First Steps Towards Marriage: Nani Sakaar

What is Nani Sakaar?

Nani Sakaar—which means small sweetness—is a beautiful Dawoodi Bohra pre-engagement tradition.
It marks a heartfelt moment when two families express the intention for their children to move forward toward marriage, with sincerity and hope.

This is not a formal religious contract, but a humble and joyful first step in building a new relationship—between two individuals and their families.

What Happens During Nani Sakaar?

Common elements of a Nani Sakaar gathering include:

• A modest family gathering to acknowledge compatibility and future intentions

• The exchange of sweets (mithai) between families, symbolizing shared happiness

• A simple gift exchange, such as clothing, jewelry, or thoughtful tokens

• Dua and blessings offered for the couple’s journey ahead

Honouring Through Rituals

Many families also include symbolic acts of love and blessing:

• The groom’s mother gives khaki shifa (blessed earth) to the bride-to-be, welcoming her into the family with spiritual protection

• The groom’s mother ties a tawiz (protective amulet) on the bride’s wrist, praying for harmony, health, and happiness

• The bride and groom perform salaam to their future in-laws, offering respect and receiving heartfelt blessings in return

“We’re Together Now”

After Nani Sakaar, it is often understood within the community that the couple is now committed to one another. Couples may begin referring to themselves as:

• “To be engaged”

• “Spoken for”

• “Dating with intention”

While not yet formally engaged, this moment is usually seen as the start of a sincere path toward marriage, insha’Allah.

Tradition for Today

Nani Sakaar is a beautiful bridge between tradition and modern life.

It preserves the values of respect, family unity, and spiritual intention.
It provides space for both older and younger generations to celebrate the start of a new bond.
It reminds us that marriage is not just about two people, but about the coming together of families and the continuation of our beloved faith and customs.